Sunday 14 February 2021

Valentine’s Day Vignette – a guest post by my cousin Aileen

Wedding photo, Nora Barton and George Meehan, 1943

This is a guest post written by my first cousin Aileen, who started her genealogical journey some years ago, back in the day when finding someone in the census meant a time-consuming and often frustrating line-by-line search of the records in the National Archives. Aileen created and manages the Wynnes of Ireland website about the Wynne surname in Ireland. Today she is writing about the Meehans, the other side of her family, her mother's side, the one we don't share.

Granny Meehan loved to tell us that she and her husband shared their birthday. She said, they were both born on Valentine’s Day, 14 February, he in 1904 and she in 1906.

Granny Meehan also loved to tell us she should have been called Valentine. When she was born, her neighbour was instructed to christen her with the unusual name. The neighbour couldn’t remember what the planned name for the child was when she got to the church, so she named her Norah. She liked the name Norah. The priest gave her the middle name of Valentine, in honour of the saint's day.

When I started my genealogical adventures, I didn’t think to question these things any more than I questioned where I’d been born or what year I became an elder sister – These were facts.

Or were they? When Nora (with no h at the end, as she became later in life) Meehan (neé Barton) died in 1999, I was gifted with her wooden boxes, which contained both church and civil certificates for members of the family. It was only when I was looking at these that I discovered discrepancies in the stories I knew as facts.

My Grandfather George Meehan
My grandfather, George Meehan, was born on the 13 February 1904 at 2:30 AM according to his birth certificate, an hour before his twin sister Kathleen. The births were registered on 21 April 1904, by Margaret Gilligan, who had been 'present at birth'.

George was baptised 'George Alfrid Meehan’ on 15 February 1904, in the local parish church, now the Cathedral of SS Peter and Paul, in Ennis, Co. Clare. The sponsors at the christening were Frank Meehan and Mary Meehan.

Interestingly, 'Kathleen' was baptized ‘Rita Kathleen' and went by the name Rita most of her life. When I mentioned her name was Kathleen on her birth certificate, my mother told me I had the wrong person. But, the fact that her parent’s names, location of the birth and the person registering the births were the same as her twin indicated I was looking at the right child.

As a side, Rita was often known as Sally, apparently, as she used to sing a beautiful version of “The Sally Gardens” when she was little - and indeed it was always her favourite song - so one of the neighbours started calling her Sally and it stuck.

Anyway, given that George was born on the 13 February and baptised on the 15 February – celebrating his birthday on the 14th was a reasonable stretch.



My Grandmother, Nora Meehan (neé Barton)
According to her birth certificate, Norah (with a h) was born on the 20 February 1906. Her birth was registered on the 15 March 1906 by her father Pat Barton. According to her baptismal record, Norah was born on the 17 February 1906 and baptised the next day, on the 18 February. The sponsors were Michael Crowe and Catherine O’Keeffe. I suspect Michael Crowe was her mother's eldest brother. Her mother had a sister Norah, born in 1863, and I have also heard she was named after this aunt. Granny Meehan never mentioned her aunts and uncles to me, so I can't say much more on that.

There was no indication of a middle name for Norah (with a h) Barton on her marriage certificate, when she married George Alfred Meehan in 1943.

I asked my mother and her brothers what they remembered about Valentine's Day when they were younger. Were there any birthday celebrations or anything else? One said he thought his mother used to claim her birthday was Valentine's Day, but he was sure that it wasn’t. The other brothers remembered nothing special about Valentine's Day when they were growing up – telling me stories of when they first discovered its (Hallmark) meaning.

My uncles also told me a couple of new stories about my great-grandmother, as initially they thought of their grandmother when I mentioned “Granny”. Some of my cousins remembered that Granny Meehan's birthday was on the 14 February. My mother said we were told both our grandparent's shared a birthday on 14 February, as St. Valentine's Day was a good day, between their birthdays, to have a joint celebration.

I think Granny Meehan felt it was a nice story, and an excuse for us to have a celebration on Valentine's Day, when she had her grandchildren around. There’s no evidence her name should have been Valentine, or that she was given the wrong name. Her stories are very sweet, though.

Take aways:
  • Take away 1. Check everything – sometimes what you know as fact may just be a supposition, or even a story, embellished by the storyteller.
  • Take away 2. Spellings can change over time (Alfrid/Alfred, Norah/Nora) – and many Irish people went by their baptismal name (‘Rita’ Kathleen Meehan) - or even a nickname that bears no resemblance to their real name.
  • Take away 3. Civil and church dates may differ – usually the church date is nearer the actual birth and is more likely to be correct.

Sources:
  1. Ireland, Department of Arts, Heritage, Regional, Rural and Gaeltacht Affairs - Civil Records'''] database with images, accessed: 7 October 2018 > image, birth registration of Norah Barton; 1906, citing Group Registration ID 332158; County: Clare; Registration District: Bridgetown; Union: Limerick; Entry no. 477.
  2. Ireland, Department of Arts, Heritage, Regional, Rural and Gaeltacht Affairs - Civil Records'''] database with images, accessed: 7 October 2018 > image, birth registration of George Meehan (and Kathleen Meehan); 1904, citing Group Registration ID 4673912; County: Clare; Registration District: Ennis; Union: Ennis; Entry no. 61 (and 62).
  3. Ireland, Department of Arts, Heritage, Regional, Rural and Gaeltacht Affairs - Civil Records'''] database with images, accessed: 7 October 2018 > image, marriage registration of George Meehan and Norah Barton; 1943, citing Group Registration ID 1092651; County: Clare; Registration District: Ennis; Parish: Ennis; Entry no. 115.

12 comments:

  1. Dara, great post! My niece and her husband were born on the same day; same hospital.

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    1. That's very cool. It's a really small world sometimes.

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  2. Thanks Colleen, so coincidences do happen! ...for a minute there, I thought you were saying they were born in Ennis, Co. Clare... haha... I'm a bit slow, sometimes. ;-)

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  3. Wonderful story, it's surprising the things we just accept as fact. Then again, why wouldn't we? But why was a neighbor taking her to be baptized?

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    1. At the time, her mother couldn't enter the church, having just had a child. She would have had to wait 40-42 days before she could be "churched" (cleansed of the sins that created the child and the birth itself). That's why her neighbour had to bring her - I'm still trying to work out what the O'Keeffe family connection is - I know that my mother's Godmother was also an O'Keeffe.
      They were her godparents too though.

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    2. Thank you for clearing that up. Apparently the man involved was sin free ;)

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    3. Of course, would you expect anything less?

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  4. I enjoyed Aileen's story very much. Fact-checking our family stories is both fun and frustrating.

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    1. Thanks Wendy, it is often fascinating to finally find the kernel of truth behind some of the more far-fetched stories.

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  5. CONGRATULATIONS! Your blog has been included in INTERESTING blogs in FRIDAY FOSSICKING at
    https://thatmomentintime-crissouli.blogspot.com/2021/02/friday-fossicking-19th-feb-2021.html
    Thank you, Chris
    What a great combination ... Aileen & Dara, two lovely cousins...

    Hard to believe that the woman had to be 'churched'.. my Mum had told me when I was very young, I couldn't believe that had happened..

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    1. Thanks Chris, We're glad you enjoyed it. I couldn't believe that either, when my mother told me. We really were misogynist barbarians, and not that long ago either.

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